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      07-18-2012, 02:04 PM   #17
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Originally Posted by templarklimek View Post
Gents. I had what I though was an excellent date wednesday night that has now gone south. I wanted your inout please.

About Me: 37 single, decent looking seccesful guy that is a gentlemen to those around me. With women I treat them well until they screw up. If I smell that they are looking for soe kind of guy with "thug" appeal I know right away it's not a match.

This girl(31) and I had much in common. The date was over dinner at a nice Italian place with a nice bottle of pinot noir(180.00 with tip) I only bring up the amount to better flesh out I do my best to take them someplace nice.

Dinner is great, witty conversation, banter, a few hints on her part on what to do on a 2nd date etc. Positive signs we will see each other again. 3 hour dinner, nonstop conversation.

Red Flags:
She mentions she has only been out of her present relationship a few weeks. Red flag for me, it takes me months to want to date again after a breakup. Also photo's on her phone of otherguys she has dated. A few tidbits of info about her that may lend themselves to conclude she may not be as stable emotionaly as she comes off.

I pay valet and she says to what a great night. Great place, great food, great music and of course great company smiling at me. At this point I suggest dinner this weekend. she says sounds great.(wednesday)

Text her late next day about dinner saturday she replies a few hours later saying "sounds wonderful!"(thursday)

Ok so friday I text her I'd be happy to pick her up as my M3 is out of shop ready to drive again. Texts back later "i bet you are glad you have your car back" an evasive answer.

So today I text 4 hrs before date about restaurant choices, 2 hrs before date shes text, "sorry, I don't think we would make it" This coming from a Ron Paul "christian girl" who dated before me a atheist socialist(go figure) I'm a Ron paul guy myself.

I texted her back "ok, take care" I don't beg or ask why anymore I know a women is an iceberg where you only see the tip. Then proceed to delete her number to avoid the sillyness of asking why?

Please help me understand. This hurt my feelings as I though we were a very promising match..
yea, I've had similar things happen. Most of the time it may not have something to do w/ you, they could have gotten back w/ their ex, met someone else, who knows.

the only thing i found odd was it seemed after the first date, you only texted her or talked to her to confirm the next date but was that it? Maybe she wanted more attention than just verifying you were still on and when she didnt get it, she thought you werent for her

bitches be needy homes

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Originally Posted by pinmagic View Post
Nice to know the straight world deals with people just as flaky as the gay world. I've had that exact same experience dozens of times. I've had guy tell me what a great time they had, and ask ME out for the next time, only to flake out on me. They often act evasive, and leave me hanging, not knowing if we're on or not. Frankly, it's just rude, and shows a complete lack of respect for the other person's time. I have no problem if we're not a match - I don't take that personally. But when they jerk you around like that, it's more a reflection on them than you.

So don't take it personally.

One piece of advice I would give, tho - unless you're Donald Trump, a $180 dinner on the first date seems inappropriate to me. Might even be a bit intimidating. Just my 2 cents.
damn bro, I thought gay guys would have it much easier since you are not dealing w/ illogical beings

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Originally Posted by SHOWTIME View Post
Like everyone said, could be many different reasons. One thing for sure though, is not to spend that kind of money on first few dates. Just like I wouldn't buy a random woman a drink unless she invests at least 5 min talking to me first. She just has to earn it...and even if you have the money, being overly nice and giving will often backfire you making you look like a sucker. As the saying goes, nice guys finish last.
If she texts you back for another date, take her to a "special" restaurant 2 hrs away and just leave her there before you order, then text her, "sorry, I don't think we would make it...but hope you can afford your ride back home...sorry for the short notice."
lol I did that to a girl in my early 20s, it was awesome but I felt bad... for 5 min
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