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      08-09-2012, 05:04 PM   #23
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Hey no one is perfect! I do this shit too!
And then a friend slaps me around and reminds me how much i make and how well to do i am and well...how great I look and I pick my dick off the floor and go off to find the next good looking girl!
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      08-09-2012, 10:19 PM   #24
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I am an alpha male and the rule #1 is do not spend a lot of money on a girl until she gives you what you want (sex, friendship, relationship it can be anything) if possible make her pay her own stuff that makes her know that you are an alpha male and you are not that interested on her. I always fallow that rule and works for me... haha
where? in your house or on an internet forum?
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      08-11-2012, 08:15 PM   #25
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Bad move spending that much on her on a first date...it just adds to the sting when she eventually tells you off. Women have to EARN your money, in one way or another, I don't care what anyone says - this is the truth. Just like another poster mentioned, you wouldn't buy a girl a drink in the club if you just met her would you? She needs to emotionally invest in you in some way before you take out the wallet (i.e. dance with her, kiss her, talk for a length of time with her that way you know she is willing to consider you as a suitor) - otherwise they take you for a fool and run off with your drink.

You need to develop a better sense of whether or not she is truly into you during the date that way you could avoid having to pay for her if she is throwing up red flags (like you said).

I'm sure she already knew after the first few minutes of the date if she was going to go on another with you, the rest of everything she's told you was BS.

Shrug it off, and move on to the next one. I'm sure you've learned a few things from this experience, at the least.
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      08-11-2012, 09:52 PM   #26
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Hey, how about 2 cents from a woman?

Be yourself. Try not to dwell on it. That's woman's not worth it. You're going to meet a lot of "not worth it" women. Those are the women who like the losers.

There are women out there who want men like you. And yup - they meet a lot of jerks too. World is strange.

To use an M analogy, it's like M cars. Unless maybe you're in some rich state or country, most of what exists out there are not M cars. You want a woman who deserves to be with you. You want a woman of calibre.

And guess what? Those types of women love being treated considerately like you treat them. And they'll treat you back the same or better.

Don't settle (or in this case waste your time thinking anymore) for/about a non-M woman. Don't worry about what you did or didn't do. Sure, there are some things you learn by going through experiences and making mistakes. Only mistake I think you made is the $180 dinner. Not because it scares her or intimidates her or whatever. But because you wasted $180 on someone that didn't deserve it! But apart from those small things you learn along the way, there's nothing you need to change about yourself.

Being yourself and the gentleman you are is the most important thing.

The best thing you can do is exactly what someone mentioned earlier: Network.

But network not with the goal of finding someone. But to expand your experiences, learn something you've wanted to learn, etc. - network to maximize the enjoyment out of living and being who you are. Then you will naturally grow even more confident (regardless of how confident you are now or not).

And it's true that a high degree of *natural* confidence is particularly attractive.

Which does explain to a degree why some nice but not too bright girls (without much self-esteem) can fall for real losers who just have loads of confidence. Because they're too dumb to realize how much of a loser they really are...
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      08-13-2012, 10:47 AM   #27
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Hey it's been a few days!
I bet you made more money right? NICE! High freaking five bro!

And what happened to her? I bet she ate a bit of fatty foods and her ass got a little bigger. And that pesky gravity thing just keeps yanking on her tits turning them from once perky to well let's face it, it looks like a worn out gym sock with some quarters in it!

OK god when I first got divorced I had to relearn all this and this is how dumb I was. I met this girl online....so we decided to go out on a date...she stood me up. LIKE A DUMB ASS! I was all hurt and called her a day later asking what gives? Well she gave me some excuse that was more or less BS. So we decided to go out again...LIKE A DUMB ASS! And well the next time we just went out for coffee and like you we made plans for going out the week later.....and LIKE A DUMB ASS I believed her. Well like you the day of the next date she calls up and says she is seeing someone. And like you I was hurt.

Cut to today about 2.5 years later. I see her again on the street...boy does she look like shit! Turns out the guy she went out with instead of me didn't have a job didn't have a career and loved to cheat on her and treat her like crap. Boy apparently "barrowed" $20k from her and never gave it back...but she wanted to know how I was doing?

How was I doing? Well I don't really "date" anymore and the last girl I was with made me a full 3 course breakfast the other week and any times he comes over she brings over a very nice dinner in a picnic basket where she is the desert. And the night before another girl I'm seeing treated me to Circ Du Sole the night before....oh and since her and I went out I now make a solid $10k more and have my MBA....so how am I doing?

Compared to her I'm doing great! And I'm sorry your once gorgeous curly blond hair now looks like a bad wig and your once very cute ass now looks three sizes bigger and there is muffin top but girl you are rocking sheet cake top.

So brother you tell me who won that war?

Rule #1 women do not have a facking clue what they want!
Rule #2 you get better with age and they age like cut flowers!
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      08-13-2012, 11:51 AM   #28
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There's definitely some funny posts in this thread!

Move on and go find something else. I used to wonder about things too. You meet someone and it feels like everything is perfect. But then they disappear or blow you off later. Most of the time, what you think went well may not have been so good for them. Women (and some men) will be nice to someone in person but may feel or think differently inside. This is especially true for online dating as there is an expectation when you meet someone that you are looking for someone as "more than a friend". And unfortunately there are more guys in the online dating world than girls. Works great for girls, not so much the other way around.

I know time is probably hard to come by for you given work and everything but try to meet people in a more casual environment. Take the time out to go and make some friends, go volunteer at a homeless shelter or children's center. Join a weekend sports group. Sign up for a Contiki vacation trip. Of all the unlikely places, I've known people who have met up from car autocross events! Just put yourself in social places where there are a lot of people out to meet each other. Have fun, talk to others.
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      08-13-2012, 12:33 PM   #29
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Then there is the mail order bride thing?
DON’T GET OFFENDED!

The other day I was at the grocery store buying of all things food! And I see this very attractive blond. So I mosy on over to see who she was up to and see if she was going commando under that very sexy mini skirt. While I'm standing 10ft away from her fake shopping for coffee I hear this voice say "Hi gorgeous find the coffee you liked?"
And I look over and there is this average guy and then I hear her accent.

First instinct was to think "You looser lack the skill and balls to find a real girl!"
But then you know what happened...I stopped myself and I got angry at him. I mean really angry at him! I mean for the rest of the day I was so pissed at him! He had cheated! The rest of us have to go to the gym have to eat right have to have the right car have to have all the right lines and then maybe if we are at the right place at the right time land a piece of ass as hot as what he was with! And there he went out and cheated and just bought one!

But my anger was nothing. That evening on face book I posted what I had seen and asked my lady friends for their thoughts! You think I had just shot a kitten on live TV! Wooh talk about angry! Like I had just walked up and kicked each one of them square in the junk!

Turns out as much as I was pissed off about the guy "cheating" the system and using a cheat code to hit it big. The ladies knew 100% that if more guys did this shit...they couldn’t do their shit.
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      08-15-2012, 10:26 PM   #30
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Don't loose sleep over it.
Don't overspend on the first date, and don't try to over-impress anyone.
Most likely, if she had dated a left wing socialist, and she is a christian woman, she will date another, and makes her life a living hell.

Once I became an RN, I make sure to let the girl know, the one I'm talking to, that I am looking for quality and not quantity. I want a lifetime partner and not a headache.

I have dated countless females. I can say this that some women, even in their 30s think that dating is a game; that goes for men also.
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      08-15-2012, 10:39 PM   #31
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Maybe taking her out for an expensive 1st date wasn't a good idea. Try going on a first date to a place less fancy, think of something fun and different rather than boring and ordinary such as an italian restaurant.
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      08-16-2012, 03:29 PM   #32
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How are you feeling OP?
Any better? Have you made any more money since the bitch? Odds are you have! :-)
Hey so remember that girl who did almost the same thing to me and who i saw this year after not seeing her for two years?
Well I don't mean to be too happy but I just spoke to her sister. Since me she was in 3 abusive relationships which she got dumped...now that's sad and funny...get abused and then get dumped? AND that she is so out of it that she will be going off to a hospital soon due to her mental issues.

Talk about dodging a bullet! So think how lucky you are!
High five your self!
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      08-16-2012, 03:35 PM   #33
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      08-16-2012, 03:46 PM   #34
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Some really sensitive males here..Oprah would be proud..

OP I am little confused why you were so quick to kick her to the curb..it IS a game ABSOLUTELY... you should have acted more aloof....and just kept her in the rotation..only instead of batting first she would be batting last and you would move on with the rest of your roster..feel me?

Women like it when you ignore em and treat them badly..conversely they stomp on you when you treat them nicely..dont ask me why..I just know it is so..finding that happy middle is tough

Suck it up..its great to be young, paid and single..what are you worried about..NEXT>>>>..
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      08-16-2012, 09:10 PM   #35
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Wow, some major creeps in this thread.
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Wow, some major creeps in this thread.
makes for an entertaining thread tho
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