[335e92tx]

Im normally not one to really get down about how things suck, but this is about the lowest. About all I can say positive is I have a good job and there are no real signs of that changing.

Otherwise, I have a parent who 6 months ago was diagnosed with a brain tumor. They operated and removed most of it but it has basically limited her vision and now she is unable to drive. She lives only across town but the involvement that it requires to be confident that she is safe and not fallen into complete depression is such that it is taking quite a toll on the wife and new family (married of only about 13 months).

Of course the wife feels that i worry about my mother too much and now she wants me to get some counseling for it. Its quite likely that my mother will need to be admitted into a nursing home and they are running about 160+$ per day...
The only thing that made it bearable up to this point was my mom had at least some income and her house was paid off - thats probably about to go out the window.

I used to be able to sleep but that is much harder now (which I cant let that effect the one positive thing - my work).
Its not like I really plan on taking any action to make it go away - other than starting to drink like a fish.

On top of that the 335 had a tire failure last week and Im still waiting for tirerack to get me the set of fronts so I can get it going (hopefully Thurs).

Other than that - everythings great. I used to be able to laugh most of the stuff off but thats pretty difficult now.

Like the man says, I picked a bad MONTH/YEAR to quit sniffin airplane glue.

Its certainly going to be a memorable holiday.. :/

Sorry for the rant - Im not sure it even helped other than to maybe give me a min to exercise the keyboard.

[jhv]

i genuinely hope things work out for you. i know that may not count for much coming from a stranger, but i mean it. i cant begin to imagine the stress youre going though. keep your head up and know that you are free to vent here whenever you need to

[TiAg335i]

Sorry to hear that about your mom. Health is truly the most valuable thing in this world. Don't lose hope, things will get better, they always do.

[MCS]

Sorry to hear about your Mom.

Life does indeed get stressfull when a parent is sick or dies.

My dad died about 3 years ago, suddenly from a heart attack, and I still miss him. Especailly around the holidays.

When parents get sick and die, you feel old...

[GreenThree]

I hope things get better for you man

[MCS]

My piece of advice is to take care of your wife. Family is all important during stressful times. You may feel inclined to blow up at her from time to time due to stress.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by MCS

Sorry to hear about your Mom.

Life does indeed get stressfull when a parent is sick or dies.

My dad died about 3 years ago, suddenly from a heart attack, and I still miss him. Especailly around the holidays.

When parents get sick and die, you feel old...

If you ever need someone to talk to...I just lost mine two weeks ago to a heart attack

[335e92tx]

Thanks for the comments and offers.
Sorry to hear about your mom sara - tough time to loose someone close.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by 335e92tx

Thanks for the comments and offers.
Sorry to hear about your mom sara - tough time to loose someone close.

It was actually my step Dad who had a heart attack December 6th but I still miss him everyday.

[Perpetrator]

I know it'll be hard, but just try and make the most of each day and enjoy the times you have at this moment. The harsh reality is that we will lose people close to us over the course of our lives. There will be more than enough days of sorrow to experience, but until those days come, just take in the good. Truly hope all gets better with your mother. Make it a goal to see how many times you can make her laugh each day, whether it be via phone, email, or in person. Hang in there...

[Scorpion]

Sorry to hear that man, don't give up hope. Life will get better.

[Whostheboss]

Better days are still ahead OP, stay strong.

[BoostedBMW]

You know its always darkest right before dawn so keep your head up and things will get better. Worrying about your mother is completely normal and is only a sign that you are a good son, but just try not to let it consume your entire family life. Like you said, try to focus on the positive and it will all work out in the end.

[jlstyle]

sorry about story.
Things will only get better.
Good luck and cheer up!

[bsamoul]

I'm sorry to hear that man about your mom. I hope you and your family will get past this a-ok and have a bright future.

happy holidays!

[TMNT]

Sorry to hear about what's going on with your life right now, but as everyone else had said, things will get better.

This time last year I found out on my birthday that my grandma overseas died, that my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer, and that I was losing my job.

It was tough, but things got better. My mom is now a breast cancer survivor and I ended up getting a new job with the same company. Things will get better I am sure.

Just stay strong and you'll get through it.

-Take care

[Seminole]

Remember, the night is always darkest before the dawn.

Things will work out, just stay strong and keep your head up.

[BoostedBMW]

Originally Posted by Seminole

Remember, the night is always darkest before the dawn.

Things will work out, just stay strong and keep your head up.

Great minds must think alike.

[TofuTurkey]

Originally Posted by 335e92tx

Other than that - everythings great. I used to be able to laugh most of the stuff off but thats pretty difficult now.

It's got a lot to do with perspective I guess... sometimes I get horribly depressed and I think about how much worse it can get, and I feel better.

But that's not what I really want to say. If you are religious, your faith may help a bit. For me, I try to practice non-attachment, the opposite of which is the source of many suffering (actually, it's the notion of "self" that is the root of suffering, but I digress). I try to let go of the things I take for granted, try to accept that ultimately everything goes away, nothing is for certain.

If you are an atheist, I suggest reading a little on the way of life that's Buddhism. In any case, good luck

[bmstyle71]

Originally Posted by 335e92tx

Of course the wife feels that i worry about my mother too much and now she wants me to get some counseling for it.

WHAT? No offense to your wife man..but what a horrible thing to say....You can never worry about your parents too much....did she worry about you 'too much' when you were in her womb..I say your wife needs to be more understanding and supportive.

[darkphantom]

Originally Posted by bmstyle71

WHAT? No offense to your wife man..but what a horrible thing to say....You can never worry about your parents too much....did she worry about you 'too much' when you were in her womb..I say your wife needs to be more understanding and supportive.

+1 but I'm not here to tell you who should be doing what.

Keep your head up hommie, and remember, stay with your mom through the good times and the bad.

You remember reading that book with the mother and the baby?



Love you Forever by Robert Munsch

Think of it like that. I don't know how it is in your culture, but in my culture, we keep our parents with us until death do us apart. They can live by themselves should they want, but when it comes to that time where they are unable to take care of themselves, I will bring them in.

If you live your life looking down, how will you ever be able to see the sun shine? Keep your head high, and stay optimistic, and make sure you keep supporting your parents.

Happy Holidays.

p.s. sorry about the tire *crossing my fingers that I don't get one*

[Razzy]

Originally Posted by BoostedBMW

You know its always darkest right before dawn so keep your head up and things will get better. Worrying about your mother is completely normal and is only a sign that you are a good son, but just try not to let it consume your entire family life. Like you said, try to focus on the positive and it will all work out in the end.

very wise words. I wish the best of luck to you man. Mine doesn't hold a candle to your problem, but i convinced my dad to come see a bike(Motorcycle) and when we got there, there was a guy loading it up to take it away. You'll pull through man. Stay safe.